Use this time to take a good look at the desires in your heart that you have about the birth. What kind of birth do you want? What’s left behind in your mind once you let all your fears disappear? Focus on your intention and surrender to the flow. All you need to do is dedicate yourself to your intention, the rest will follow.

Once you make your decision, you can make a birth plan. You can find a birth plan template in the chapter dedicated to lists. You can write down whether you want to give birth at a hospital, in or out of water… Who do you want to have with you in the delivery room? Try to be really analytical when you write about that. While some women draw strength from having their mothers in the room with them, seeing a worried mother in the room might be an added source of anxiety for others. Would you like to have pho-tos taken or would you rather keep those moments private? What are your expectations from the doctor who will deliver your baby? What do you want to have in the room? Candles, soft lights, some light music are all good, but most importantly you will need your privacy (see the chapter about preparing the delivery room).


So if hospital administrators, cleaning staff and even nurses are just coming into your room unnecessarily, that could delay the birth by inducing anxiety and fear when you are at your most vulnerable.

You should list things like being able to move around, eat little snacks, take a shower or try delivering the baby while squatting in your birth plan. If you want your baby to not be bathed right after birth but laid on your chest, your bare skin before its measurements are taken and before anything else is done, you should say that be-forehand and insist on it if necessary. You could also request that your baby not be taken outside of the room alone to be weighed and ask that the baby’s father accom-pany it and you could put that on your list as well.

You need to share your birth plan with the people who will be with you during delivery and tell them how you can feel more comfortable so that they can act accord-ingly and defend your rights if necessary.

What Is a Birth Plan Template?

Write down all the conditions you would and would not prefer to be in during the deliv-ery and be clear about everything. Don’t refrain from communicating! (more on this in the  chapter about preparing the delivery room). 


· I want to walk around, take a shower or a bath and stand up during the contrac-tions.

· I want the baby’s heartbeat to be observed closely by listening to it with a fetal or doppler stethoscope at certain intervals. I don’t want to be hooked up to a unit or walk around with one.

· I don’t want to be hooked up to an IV at any time.

· I don’t want anyone to come into my room except for the people I’ve asked.

· As for pain management, I don’t want to have any analgesic medication, epidur-al, local anesthetics or other methods; I will instead use natural techniques such as breathing exercises, aromatherapy and massage.

· I don’t want to be administered medical induction to speed up the birth.

· I want my spouse and my birth coach to be there with me through all stages of birth. I don’t want any interns or students from the hospital delivery team to be there.

· I request that the delivery staff don’t tell me the gender of the baby until the very last moment. If you don’t want to know the baby’s gender until birth, make sure all the professionals involved know this so they don’t just blurt it out after looking at the ultrasound.

Birth plan example for the moment of delivery

· I want to try pushing while sitting up in bed with my back straight and my feet pulled back to my stomach or on my knees or squatting down. I’d rather not put my feet up on the birthing bed.

· I want/don’t want an episiotomy. I want to have enough time spared for the peri-neal area to stretch and open up, and I want to have a perineal massage.

· I don’t want to have my stomach pressed on.

· I don’t want anyone other than ………. to watch the moment of delivery (includ-ing my spouse). Everyone else can stand to the side and do their jobs when necessary.

Birth plan example for after the delivery

· I would like to have my baby be put on my chest right away.

· I would like to nurse my baby right away.

· I want all the procedures to be performed on the baby right next to me; it should all be done while my spouse has a hand on the baby.

· I want my spouse to be the one to cut the umbilical cord.

· I want the baby to be bathed accompanied by me and 12 hours after birth.

· I want to leave the delivery room with my baby in my arms. If the Apgar* score is fine, I don’t want the baby to leave the room in bed or in an incubator, I want to take the baby to my room myself.

· I don’t want the hospital staff to give my baby a pacifier.

· I don’t want my baby (boy) to be circumcised.

· I want the staff to warn visitors to turn off their mobile phones. It could be pointed out right after the visitors ask for the room number.

· I want to stay in the hospital for 1-3 days if possible.

You can add any other items you care about here.

* Apgar: Apgar is a test performed on a baby at 1 and 5 minutes after birth to determine its wellbeing.


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